Lorri Dudley

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Future robots and life on the moon

Would You Rather…?

Would you rather move fifteen years into the future and receive 50 million dollars or go back to the age of ten but with all the current knowledge you have now?

My son and I heard this question posed on the radio while driving to lacrosse practice. Immediately, my son chose fifteen years into the future with 50 million dollars. I asked him why, and his answer made sense because for him ten years old was only three years ago, so going back wouldn’t gain him much. He’d know the outcome of the Superbowl, but he’d be too young to place any bets. (I reminded him he shouldn’t be placing any bets.)

I thought over my answer and came up with neither, to which he told me neither wasn’t a choice. Nevertheless, it’s what I chose, and I got to explain to him the reasoning. I wouldn’t want to progress 15 years into the future even if they paid me 50 million because I wouldn’t want to miss my sons’ graduations, their weddings, and even maybe the birth of a grandchild or two. Those are precious moments. And even though it means dealing with the teenage years and some of the struggles of standing by while my children learn to make life-changing decisions, some wrong and some right, I want to be there to support them and help them navigate their way when and if they need me.

Lorri age 10
Lorri age 10

I also wouldn’t want to go back to the age of ten, even if I could return with all the wisdom and knowledge I have now. Yes, it would be great to go back and correct some of my mistakes, but I wouldn’t want to risk changing the outcome of those mistakes. What if it was those mistakes that led me to God. What if I changed something and then never met my husband, not having my children, or having different children. (Plus, I’m not sure I hold the patience to re-live the potty-training phase again.)

My mistakes have made me who I am today. Even though they are painful to remember, I can rejoice over the outcome. The would-you-rather question got me thinking about how God gives us just the right amount of wisdom and strength for each moment when we need it. He doesn’t give us too much so we become prideful and think we can handle things all on our own, and He doesn’t forsake us and leave us to fend for ourselves in our time of need.

God’s wisdom and grace are sufficient for each moment.

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woods

Beware the Woods

Woods

In golf, when a ball is hit into the woods, it usually spells trouble. Either the player takes a penalty, or they try to drive it out of the briars, leaves, trees, and other obstacles.

Stay out of the woods

I say it to my kids all the time: one because I don’t want them getting lost, two because of deer ticks, and three poison ivy.

In fairy tales, a forest is usually a place of false security. It provides shelter, but unknowns lurk in the shadows. Hansel and Gretel were left in the woods because their parents had no food but discovered a gingerbread house owned by a witch who wanted to eat them. A huntsman hid Snow White in the woods to save her from her wicked stepmother, but it wasn’t long before the witch fed her a poison apple. Little Red Riding Hood strolls through the woods taking a basket of goodies to her grandmother and happens upon a wolf who deceives her and eats Little Red Riding Hood and her grandmother for lunch.

Dark eerie path in the woods

Beware the woods.

Don’t get me wrong. I love the beauty of the woods. I take my boys out there for hikes. However, I have a healthy respect for the forest. I stick to the safe areas and to stay on the right path. I know to coat with bug spray and what leaves to avoid.

“The forest swallowed up more men that day than the sword.” 2 Samuel 18:8

In 2 Samuel chapters 16 through 18, Absalom had just absconded with the throne. His good looks and politicking at the gate had given him the power he desired, and he used it to send his father, King David, scurrying for the hills. Still riding the high of the win, Absalom sent his men into the woods after David to finish the battle.

Beware the false sense of security.

The woods may seem harmless. It may even offer some protection. The forest was probably the last on Absalom’s list of concerns. That is until his hair got caught on a limb, and he hung there unable to free himself like a lamb waiting for the slaughter. Joab heard of his defenselessness and ran him through with a javelin, despite King David’s instructions not to hurt his son.

What may seem insignificant might lead you down the wrong path.

The acronym is SID, small insignificant decision, and represents something that seems mundane or harmless but over time leads to substantial problems or death. For instance:

Saying, “just this once,” or “no one will know.”

Buying that outfit or electronic device before you have the funds.

Your friends saying, “it’s okay,” but your gut doesn’t.

A little innocent flirting.

One of my favorite sermons on love, sex, and dating by Andy Stanley of Northpoint church discusses the Right Person Myth. Here’s a quick synopsis: A man or woman believes they’ve found Mr. or Mrs. Right and get married. After the honeymoon phase has passed, they wake up to the sound of their crying baby, roll over with morning breath, argue whose turn it is to get up, and start to second guess whether they truly married the right person. Then one day they’re at the gym or work, and the actual Mr. and Mrs. Right shows up. A little innocent flirting leads to them leaving their spouse and marrying the true Mr. or Mrs. Right only to wake up one morning, roll over to their 2nd spouse who also has morning breath, and argue. Rinse and repeat.

If you can’t stay on the path, then stay out of the woods.

We all have weaknesses. It’s good to evaluate them and in those areas give yourself a wide margin. I realize this is easier said than done, but if you struggle with drinking, don’t meet your friends at a bar. If your marriage is having issues, don’t go hanging out with a group of divorcees. If you’re in financial straits, don’t go for a walk in the mall. Keep the margin wide enough that if you slip-up you’re still so far from crossing the line that it’s easy to ask forgiveness and begin again.

Pray for wisdom to see the warning signs way up the road, and the courage to follow the right path.

And, if you have strayed deep into the woods, remember that God is a great redeemer. You can never wander so far that he cannot reach you and draw you back under the shelter of his wings.

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Mel Gibson as William Wallace in the movie Braveheart

What is Your Battle Cry?

“Freedom!” was the epic battle cry William Wallace (played by Mel Gibson Mel Gibson as William Wallace in Braveheartin the movie Braveheart) that stirred his ragtag group of Scottish warriors. “Remember the Alamo!” was shouted by General Sam Houston, after the deaths of Texas independence fighters who held out for thirteen days outmanned and outgunned in a mission house called the Alamo. The cry rallied his troops against the superior Mexican army and reminded them of Texan courage under fire. “Give me liberty or give me death,” was spoken by Patrick Henry to raise a militia and fight against British tyrannical rule. It soon became the colonial minutemen battle cry as they marched under banners that read “Liberty or Death.”

A New Battle Cry

At the start of each year, I ask God to give me a new battle cry or a new focus. God may be able to offer some people a phrase or an entire prophecy but I’ve learned I can only handle a word or two. Last year mine was in-tune. I’d like to say I honed in on God, that I keyed in on His wavelength, but I was more like the talking dogs in the movie Up. One-minute God and I are having a great moment and then … squirrel. It was a yearlong growing process where I learned tuning-in also meant tuning some things out.

A Daily Ask.

For 2019, James 1:5 has come to my attention. “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for owlasking.” In the past when I’ve read this I’ve always prayed, God help me to understand this specific circumstance, or what to say to this specific person, or what to write for this blog. However, it struck me that praying for wisdom shouldn’t be based solely on circumstances. It should be a daily ask. And since God’s ways are higher than our ways, wouldn’t we want to daily ask for wisdom to align our mind and logic with His?

Don’t Wait for Wisdom. Seek It.

Don’t just wait around for God to drop a wisdom bomb on you. It should be something that we seek out. Proverbs 2: 3-5 says,

    “Indeed, if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,
    and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,
    then you will understand the fear of the Lord
and find the knowledge of God.”

The book of Proverbs is an entire book of the Bible dedicated to wisdom and it has thirty-one chapters which happens to be one for every day of the month. It’s as if God knows we need a daily dose. 

If we ask, God has made it clear that He is willing to provide. When Solomon requested wisdom instead of riches, long life, or death to his enemies, it reads to me as if God was giddy to supply it. God told Solomon in 1 Kings 3:10-14, “I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart such as no one else has had or ever will have! And I will also give you what you did not ask for—riches and fame! No other king in all the world will be compared to you for the rest of your life!”

I can picture God with a big triumphant smile, pumping his fist and saying, “Atta-boy.”

Now, you probably won’t see me riding horseback, my face painted half blue, and raising my fist in the air and shouting, “WISDOM!” But, I am giddy myself when I think of what God is going to provide and how it will impact 2019 and the years to come. 

What is your word for this year? What is your Battle cry? Fight song? What is God putting on our heart? Ask for wisdom and our generous God will give it to you.

Wishing you a wise and wonderful 2019!

Happy New Year!

Intelligence  Vs. Wisdom
Here’s a profound post I found on the difference between Intelligence and Wisdom.

1. Intelligence leads to arguments.
Wisdom leads to settlements.

2. Intelligence is power of will.
Wisdom is power OVER will.

3. Intelligence is heat, it burns.
Wisdom is warmth, it comforts.

4. Intelligence is pursuit of knowledge, it tires the seeker.
Wisdom is pursuit of truth, it inspires the seeker.

5. Intelligence is holding on.
Wisdom is letting go.

6. Intelligence leads you.
Wisdom guides you.

7. An intelligent man thinks he knows everything.
A wise man knows that there is still something to learn.

8. An intelligent man always tries to prove his point.
A wise man knows there really is no point.

9. An intelligent man freely gives unsolicited advice.
A wise man keeps his counsel until all options are considered.

10. An intelligent man understands what is being said.
A wise man understands what is left unsaid.

11. An intelligent man speaks when he has to say something.
A wise man speaks when he has something to say.

12. An intelligent man sees everything as relative.
A wise man sees everything as related.

Intelligence is good
but wisdom receives better results

I found this on the Beyond the Opposites blog page. To see the full post along with some life hacks regarding smart verses wise people click here:
http://beyondtheopposites.com/2018/05/11/whats-the-difference-between-intelligence-and-wisdom/#sthash.95rumfOu.dpbs

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