Lorri Dudley

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Pink is the New Black

Guy with pink hair in sunglasses

Pink is the new black according to 2019 color tends from Elle Décor. If you’re into a fresh new interior, coral pink colors are slated to be hot for 2019. I love the idea, but in a dominantly male household, they may revolt if I painted the family room pink. Pink, however, has found its way into the male wardrobe over the years. Businessmen sport pink button-down shirts and pink ties. Basketball players wear hot pink athletic shoes on the court. Some don it in support of women’s causes, others to get attention, or to keep up with a fad. But generally speaking, pink has been a girl’s color.

Or has it?

In the 1800s and early 1900s in England, boys wore pink instead of blue. A 1918 article from Earnshaw’s Infant Department claimed pink was a strong masculine color more so than the dainty, delicate color blue. Strange? To us maybe. But when you consider the Red Coats the British army wore during that time, it makes sense. Boys were considered small men and pink is a lighter version of red. The trend became for boys to wear pink. This all changed with Dwight Eisenhower’s wife, Mamie, wore pink to his U.S. presidential inauguration. Suddenly, pink became a feminine color.

Fortnight Floss Dance

Over time trends come and go. Everything used to be fat-free. Now Keto diets are trending. Carbs are shunned, and fats are okay. Depending on the day or article you read, eggs, dairy, and salt can be healthy or killing you. Politicians flip flop on issues. Republicans and Democrats get elected and unelected. Celebrities and athletes rise and fall from fame. Fidget spinners and bottle flipping are a thing of the past. Dabbing was replaced by Fortnight dances.

It’s exhausting, if not down-right impossible, to keep up.

Change can be exciting, but it can also be nerve-racking. We can feel like Alice in Wonderland down the rabbit hole where up is down, small is big, and vice versa. Like Alice, we follow the instructions “drink me” and “eat me” to catch up with everyone else but end up overcompensating and becoming too big or too small, never just right.   

Thankfully, amidst all this change, one thing is consistent—one thing is constant.

God remains the same.

Hebrews 13:8 says, Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” It almost seems surreal for something to stay the same, but God does. We can rely on his word. We can count on his promises. We can put our trust in Him for His word is truth. Numbers 23:19 says, “God is not human, that he should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?” He is the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end. What he promised long ago still holds true today. It doesn’t fade or grow dim. It’s not swayed, persuaded, or altered. It is the same, determined by an all-knowing God before the heavens were created, before we were a speck in our mother’s womb. “The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God endures forever” Isaiah 40:8.

We can release a collective sigh and know, that no matter how topsy-turvy the world is, God is steadfast and unchanging. He is our rock in a sea of change.

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Sleep by Salvador Dali

Who are You “Crutching” on?

Humans are notoriously good at one thing—messing up. Controversial as he was, famous surrealist artist Salvador Dali understood human frailty. Many of his paintings depicted people being propped up by sticks or crutches. In his unique way, Dali showed the weakness of the human body and spirit and our need to supply “support for the tenderness of soft structures” (daliparis.com/en/salvador-dali/dalinian-symbolism).

Sleep by Salvador Dali

Some of us use boyfriends, girlfriends, or spouses to prop us up. They become our crutch, and we rely more and more on them to bring us happiness and fix our pain. I’ve seen countless women and men pray for God to put someone in their lives, only to stop coming to church once He does. The problem starts when we try to patch our emptiness hole with a person. It’s like putting a Band-aid on a gaping wound. It’s too much to ask someone to fill a hole that only God can fill.

So how do we get healthy enough to stand on our own?

Realize we need a vertical relationship, not a horizontal relationship. Ask God to hold us. Cling to a solid foundation, not a spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend. Psychologists, Dr. Les and Leslie Parrot, talk aboutA-frame verses H-frame and M-frame relationships. An A-frame is where a couple or friendships leans heavily upon one another to support them. They are looking for what Tom Cruise in the movie Jerry McGuire said, “You complete me.” Unfortunately, when relationships lean entirely on the other person the pressure created is going to cause one side to slip, and in an A-frame when one side slips, the other falls with it. Conversely, an H-frame is independent. It stands on its own, and if one side falls, the other hardly notices. In an M-frame, each person is healthy enough to stand on their own but still feels a sense of loss if the other side stumbles. It has emotional stability but chooses to be together and have a mutual influence.

Realize we are deeply and wonderfully loved for ourselves. God created you, and he loves you for who you are. He has sacrificed much to be with you. St. Augustine said, “God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.” Scripture confirms it. Romans 8:38-39 states, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Psalm 139 says, “Where can I go from your presence… If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.”

Alexander Pope said, “To err is human.” Fallible has become part of the definition of being human. We can’t idolize a pastor or a parent, or a boyfriend or girlfriend or an athlete. If we do, we will be let down. They are human. “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). Thankfully we have a God who anxiously waits for us to ask for His help. He desires to uphold you with His righteous right hand (Isaiah 41:10).

He longs to reach down and scoop His child up in His arms.

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